My husband and myself have been married for 12 years and are very happy. We have no children because i have a problem conceiving. We are very happy together and my husband keeps me all time happy with joking. Over the years he has on various occasions jokingly given me Talaqs (divorce) but at these times we did not know that joking Talaq (divorce) is serious Talaq (divorce), after a long time I found out that joking Talaq (divorce) is serious Talaq (divorce) and i told my husband but he can not remember and he Denies. Now we are still living together. Now I need to know are we still married?
According to the authentic Hadith Nikah and Talaq are those matters that become effective whether done in seriousness or joke.
If your husband divorced at multiple occasions even if it was out of a joke but it was direct and unambiguos then it becomes effective as it is uttered.
Now, you have to determine, how many times your husband divorced you in total. If it is three or more then your Nikah has permanently been terminated and you must not live with him as his wife. If it was less than that then you may renew your Nikah and live with him as his wife.
And Allah knows best.
Mufti Ikram ul Haq
Fatwa Center of America